Blogs and Reflections 

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05.11.23

Beauty in the Little Things 

So, here I am. My first blog post and reflecting on what to write. Do I try and be specific, with a purpose and an outcome? Or do I just let the words flow naturally on to the paper? Many years of academia have caused me to want to write for purpose, read for purpose, learn for purpose. But I suppose there is something in writing because, well… I want to? So here goes, I promise to offer my full self, no edits or grammar checks. Just lil ole me; my authentic self and offer what comes naturally while I sit with my partner, dinner in the oven, feeling safe, secure, and happy. 

This morning, I was looking out of the window, and I noticed a Pigeon sat next to a Blackbird. I smiled at the thought they could be friends, my partner asked me why I was smiling which I replied, “finding beauty in the littlest of things.” This is what this Sunday afternoon is for me. Beauty in the littlest of things. 

With that in mind, there is something to be said for doing nothing but something with the ones you love. That feeling of utter contentment and peace while I watch my partner enjoy some time on his PlayStation and I browse my socials, read a book, or write a blog in this case. I am not saying this is the foundation of our relationship; we date, we socialise, we laugh and play… but for me doing things we enjoy, in the company of each other, having physical contact yet not having to fill the silences; the space to be ourselves, enjoying our down time on this Sunday afternoon is something I really value. 

Existing in the same space as my favourite human is enough to make my soul happy and with that, I can relax. I don’t feel like I have to say or do anything in this exact moment, and we are both completely comfortable with that. Doing nothing but something, together, is beautiful in its own way. 

So, I ask, take a moment, and think about the last time you stopped to recognise and appreciate the beauty in the little things. Sometimes life can feel simple and mundane yet, if you take a time to search for beauty in each moment, they can be perfect. 

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03.12.2023

A reason, A season or a Lifetime… 

Considering how much I enjoyed writing the last blog, I realised that it has been a month, and I haven’t put paper to pen. So here goes, again… 

Recently, a client told me that he thinks, people and things happen for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. 

Within the last month, I turned 33… 33 feels a lot better than 32. I felt like this was a great reflection point for this blog post. With the reason, season or lifetime idea, here is how my past year has gone.

My 32nd Birthday was horrible for me. I suddenly felt as though I had been hit in the face with the reality of what and where my life was… and it wasn’t nice. I felt as though I was in a place so far from where I actually wanted to be and absolutely no idea how to “fix” it. But I knew things needed to change. 

Over the past year, I have turned my complete world around. From the realisation in November, I let things lie over Christmas but then at the beginning of 2023, I started making bold moves, decisions, and changes, to get the life I wanted and deserved.

I left a relationship that was no longer making me happy, and I was finally able to put the needs of myself first. This was huge for me as I could finally see it was my own responsibility to make myself happy and encourage myself to do more. I realised what I wanted and needed from a relationship. And this wasn’t it. 

Reason: A lesson. 

I quit my “regular paying” job to go fully self-employed and opened “Chloe’s Counselling” in the heart of my hometown. This became and still is, my pride and joy. Sitting in that newly decorated and furnished counselling room, gave me space to evaluate what else I needed to change. 

Season: The old job was a season in my life that showed me where I wanted to be career wise.   

I then graduated from my master’s in psychology with a Merit. Hearing my name called out in the ceremony was the most pride I’d felt for myself in a long time. Walking, with the thoughts that I’d got here through sheer determination, strength, resilience, and confidence was something so unusual to me, yet I stood tall (as I could at 5 foot 3! Haha!) and proud, believing in my own self and abilities. And these feelings weren’t just for the degree. They represented me and my life. 

The summer then brought more good things my way. A few girly holidays and trips away, a graduation party, a few nights out and some proper me time was just what I needed. All the changes that had happened were amazing and brave, but also hard to settle in to. Summer helped me to continue to find myself, who I wanted to be, and what I wanted. 

Then I met my partner. And all the work, the changes, the emotions fell into place. The tidal wave caused from my 32nd birthday met the shore calmly. Everything that I had been through led me to this point, and life now feels safe. Everything that I have learnt about myself this past year through all the seasons and reasons are now the basis for the rest of my life. 

Lifetime: I want this feeling for a lifetime. Waves calmly lapping against the sandy shores. 

The past year has been a lot. But I am sat here now reflecting on all that I have been through, with people in my life that make the waves feel calm. I can breathe. And it feels good. 

Bad times happen, hard times happen, but if we can remember to see every experience as a learning curve or a lesson, life works out and you too will feel the calm after the storm. Just like I did when I woke up on my 33rd birthday; with the greatest guy, in the greatest city, having learnt the greatest lessons for myself. 

My Boy, Frankie 

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At 16:45 on 06.12.24, my whole world- my best friend, co-worker and heart went to sleep for the last time. My boy was more than a pet dog, he was able to light up a room during the work that we did together. I miss him very very much and I'm not ashamed to say I'm struggling with the grief. He was my everything. 

We worked together for 6 years and I want to share his story; here it is... 

On the 24th September, 2017 I fell in love with my best friend.

You were a little bundle of black fur, little paws and gentle brown eyes, a pointy head and a little bald patch on your tummy. You wrapped yourself around my neck and that was it, my heart was yours.

But little did I know, at that moment, how much you would do and how many lives you would change. Especially mine.

A month into your time with us, we lost our beloved Great Dane, Grace and you were there, this little four month old puppy, who allowed me to sob into you as Grace crossed that rainbow bridge, I knew from that moment you were something special. Saying nothing, but having the ability to comfort me in a way no other living thing has ever done before.

At 12 weeks old, we embarked on our training. I had decided that I wanted to train you as a therapy dog, to work alongside me in my new career direction as a therapist.

We went to puppy class and there we grew our bond. You smashed it. We met some absolutely fantastic people along the way. I have friends for life thanks to you, my boy  they watched you grow alongside me and loved you nearly as much, I think.

Months passed and you accepted Milo and Nala into the pack. The three musketeers. Carving yourselves into the family, our hearts and the walls of the landing 

When you were only 12 months old, we signed up to volunteer with Pets as Therapy. Our first establishment was a nursing home for elderly people. It was here you then stole the heart of Bernice who sadly suffered with dementia. We visited her weekly and she remembered your bloody name every week. She even had a photo of you on her nightstand  she would sing to you and feed you treats, while you chewed through your lead and wandered around the damn place like you owned it.

It was about this time I noticed you were limping quite badly on your front leg and this is when we started, what I know now to be, lifelong visits to the vets.

You had elbow dysplasia and had to have surgery. But this didn't stop you. You were back at it within 6 months after rest and hydrotherapy and we started visiting a women's refuge. You stole more hearts here too.

In 2021, at 4 years old. You had your first look inside a prison. I remember walking in with you feeling nervous myself but I knew you had my back. Especially when we walked around a corner and faced a group of prisoners, you went mental, barking at them! At which point I had to remind you that you were a therapy dog and you had to be nice! You must have sensed I was nervous. Thank you for always having my back baby boy 

One day at the prison, you were sat next to a prisoner serving a life sentence and he had his arms wrapped round you. I asked him if he was enjoying his cuddle and he replied "I've not had a cuddle in 15 years." But you, Frankie boy, let him cuddle you. You came with no judgement and no care. Just love. More hearts stolen.

We worked together at the prison for a while and Shelby soon joined us. We played and laughed, you wagged your tail, and gave these men a sense of normality. Only dogs could do that, and you and Shelby both had that gift.

Then came your second bout of surgery. Elbow dysplasia round two. You rallied again baby boy.

We then went to work at a community centre and ran an animal-assisted intervention group, similar to what we did in the prison. A young lady came to this group with severe social anxiety. You worked your magic and the last I heard, she was volunteering at the community centre she was too scared to visit prior to our group, but took her first steps in there to meet you. Another group of hearts stolen.

Our final establishment was a primary school. You worked here for the longest time. Once a week we would go in and you would shine so bright. Everyone loved you, staff and children alike.

You worked closely with the SEN children, letting them prod, poke and sit on you alongside building their confidence around dogs. You were so good and you took it all in your stride. About 600 hearts stolen here baby boy.

I had to retire you in September 2024 as your arthritis just got too much. My plan was to give you the best retirement full of love, cuddles, fleesy blankets and tennis balls. Little did I know that your retirement would only last three months and I was soon to be faced with the hardest decision of my life.

Your bones finally gave up on you, and this time it was your spine. You rallied so many times Frankie baby, but this time, I had to let you go. Too much pain and no quality of life. It was unfair to keep you with me, for my own selfish needs. I had to do what was best for you.

As I reflect on everything you have done for the hundreds of people you have worked with. You make me beam with pride.

We had the best time together, I knew you worked hard so I had to reward you. Many cuddles, naps together, snuggles, blankets, holidays, walks, days out, treats, and many many many tennis balls.

You stole the hearts of so many people. But you had mine from the beginning to the end. You were my boy, my best friend, my comfort; my whole world.

Thank you Frankie, you helped me through my darkest times and out of my depression. You built my confidence and made me a better version of myself.

I will always cherish you and our memories together. And you will always always have my heart. 

Blogs Are Hard, but Life Can Be Harder

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Why Reaching Out for Mental Health Support Can Make All the Difference

Writing a blog can be surprisingly difficult. You sit down with good intentions, hoping to express something meaningful. But often, the words don’t come easily. You overthink. You second-guess. You wonder if what you're saying will help anyone at all.

And in a small way, that creative struggle reflects something much bigger: life can be even harder.

In today’s world, many of us feel overwhelmed, anxious, or simply stuck. Whether it’s the pressure of work, the weight of family responsibilities, the stress of finances, or the quiet struggles with mental health that no one else can see, it’s a lot to carry alone.

When Life Feels Heavy, You're Not Alone

The truth is, life doesn’t always go to plan, and it doesn’t always feel manageable. Many people experience anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, burnout, or grief. These feelings are common, and they are real.

But here’s what I want you to know:
You don’t have to go through it alone.

At times, it can feel easier to stay silent, to push through, or to convince yourself that “others have it worse.” But seeking help is not a sign of weakness, it’s a step toward healing. And it’s one of the bravest things you can do.

Why Consider Counselling?

Counselling offers a safe, confidential space to explore your thoughts and feelings with someone trained to help. Whether you’re dealing with a specific issue or a general sense that things aren’t right, talking to a therapist can help you:

Make sense of difficult emotions

Learn healthier coping strategies

Rebuild confidence and self-worth

Work through trauma, grief, or relationship issues

Create meaningful and sustainable change in your life

And most importantly: feel heard, supported, and understood.

Counselling Services That Fit You

My counselling services are designed to meet you where you are. Whether you’re looking for in-person sessions, online therapy, or a space to talk without judgement, I'm here to support you.

You don’t need to have all the answers to start therapy. You don’t even need to know exactly what’s wrong. All you need is the willingness to take the first small step.

Life Can Be Harder, But You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

If you’re reading this and thinking, “That sounds like me,” then maybe now is the right time to reach out.

You deserve to feel better.
You deserve to be supported.
You deserve to be heard.

Let’s talk. I'm here when you’re ready.

Grief Isn’t Linear: Coping with Loss at Your Own Pace

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*Written by Me and My Dad 

 

Gentle, Person-Centred Counselling for Grief and Loss

Grief is something we all experience—but few of us feel prepared for. It doesn’t follow a set pattern. It can be confusing, overwhelming, and exhausting. Some days you may feel like you’re coping. Other days, the smallest thing can bring everything crashing down.

At Chloe’s Counselling I want to reassure you of one important truth:

Grief isn’t neat, tidy, or linear, and that’s okay.

Whether you’re grieving a loved one, a relationship, your health, or a future that didn’t go to plan, there is no “right” way to feel. This blog is here to gently support you and offer insight into how therapy can help you move through loss, at your own pace.

“The thing no one teaches you about grief is that the love doesn’t die; it just sits there with nowhere to go.” Between us we can find a place for that love.

 

What Grief Really Feels Like

We often hear about the “stages” of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, but for many people, grief doesn’t arrive in neat sections. You might swing between numbness, sadness, guilt, anger, confusion, or even moments of peace, and then back again. Sometimes all in the same afternoon.

This is completely natural.

At Chloe’s Counselling, my aim is to create a warm, compassionate non-judgemental space where you can speak openly about your experience. You don’t need to explain or justify your emotions. You just need to show up as you are and you won’t be told how to grieve or when you should feel “better.”

 

🕊 Let Go of the Pressure to “Move On”

You may have heard messages like: "It gets easier with time." "They’d want you to be happy." "You need to move on."

While these may be well-meant, they can feel dismissive or even hurtful. Grief is not something you fix; it’s something you learn to live with. And that process is different for everyone.

 

How Grief Counselling Can Help

Talking to a trained therapist can give you the space to process your grief in your own time. Whether you're newly bereaved or carrying a long-held sadness, counselling offers a gentle way to:

· Understand and express difficult emotions

· Make sense of how loss is affecting your life

· Develop ways to cope with triggers and anniversaries

· Explore what moving forward might look like for you

· Honour your grief in a way that feels authentic

At Chloe’s Counselling, I work with clients in a person-centred, compassionate way, always led by your pace, not mine.

Sessions are available in-person in Rossendale, and online wherever you live.

 

Grieving in Your Own Way

Your experience of grief is uniquely yours. There’s no checklist, no timeline, no “should.” Whether you're feeling lost, numb, angry, or just unsure what to do next, you are not alone.

You are allowed to feel. You are allowed to take your time. And you are allowed to ask for help.

 

Ready to Reach Out?

If you’re looking for grief counselling, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you.

I offer a free 15-minute initial call to talk about how counselling might help, and to answer any questions you might have before booking a session. 

 

Grief doesn’t follow rules. But support can be found, and healing is always possible.

 

 

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